I miss the village I never had

Recently a very dear friend sent me a link to an article in the Huffington post called I miss the village. The Link is here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bunmi-laditan/i-miss-the-village_b_5585677.html It speaks about the social isolation that women are feeling because of the ever shrinking world we live in. Although we are a global community now in theory we should growing closer as a global community but technology has had a paradoxical effect on community. Instead of growing closer it has pushed us apart. No longer do we have to use our empathy skills to cope with the community around us, we can choose to find a new group or station to go to. We compartmentalize relationships and isolate the ones that we deem not as pleasant and make no effort to understand the community that is on our door step. This not only applies to women, but to men as well. The hunters no longer have to work together and the alpha male mentality is accentuated to a degree where all men believe that they must be the “top dog” it is a back biting society we live in. No longer to men have to work together to hunt a kill or to raise a barn, they can plop down in front of a computer and at the end of the day go home to which ever community they choose on line. It's not that I believe that the stereotypical roles are conducive to a good society, but I believe that having a society is conducive to having a good society. Unfortunately there is no station that fits me as an individual. A Christian who is not as welcome to the church because of years of incorrect thinking, a lesbian who is a Christian who is an out cast because of my beliefs, a single mom who can't identify with the search to have a father in my child's life because a man is not what I seek. There is no particular group in which I belong. Because of the technology and the new age we live in we devalue people and rank them in order of what can they give to the relationship instead of valuing the relationship it's self. And that is a damn shame. So what can we do? Shut off our computers and go outside, greet a stranger make a friend, do random acts of kindness and try and get back some of the socialization that we desperately need. Realize that we are not entitled to anything that the world does not owe us anything and that we are put on this earth to serve each other. Above all, love each other, truly love people and show it to them. The most valuable gift you can give someone now is your time. Unplug from the global community for a while and search out in your own. Give of yourself, you are unique and worth knowing!