Is sexuality a choice?

Growing up in a hetero-normative family, I have often felt as if I am the odd ball. Given my druthers I have clearly stated that living a heterosexual life is just not that possible for me. Okay let me change that statement. I could live a heterosexual life, but I just wouldn’t be happy. I would not feel fulfilled in my life, and I have spent far too long in relationships that aren’t fulfilling to subject myself to that again. I also bare in mind that I have a child. She needs to learn that in her life, when she is older (much much older) that she needs to find someone whom compliments her life. That she should not settle for less than she deserves. I recently scanned an article that spoke about a lesbian who had chosen to be a lesbian. I do question this poor girls sanity, but given that she is independent and makes her own money it isn’t much of a burden on her. What does money have to do with being a lesbian? Easy question. In our misogynistic North American life, women still on average make less than men. It’s not that women aren’t qualified to do the same jobs or as educated, but there is the gender gap. It reminds me of a joke, a man was asking a male to female transgendered individual who had just come out of surgery what the most painful part was. She replied the pay cut. This is a sad joke on so many levels, but very true. Women typically make less than men, and gay women typically are some of the poorer individuals. Consider a woman who gets out of a marriage because she is a lesbian. Women more often than not get custody of the children (although this trend is thankfully changing). Being a single mom is difficult on so many levels, especially financially. Above mentioned woman finds a partner who also has children. Bingo. Very low income family with very high bills. Anyone who has children can attest to the increased bills due to kids! I digress, so is sexuality a choice. No it's something inborn, but you can choose to go against your sexuality and live and opposite life. Who would want to?