Love yourself

Recently I have come across a bunch of friends in terrible relationships. They are almost always one sided parasitic relationships. It's hard to watch someone in so much pain because they deserve better, they deserve love and they aren't getting it. There is nothing more lonely than going to bed with someone and feeling all alone.

I have other friends who hop from relationship to relationship and each time they change relationships they lose a bit of themselves. Each crappy relationship they get in they immediately fall in love (or what they think is love) and in the end getting hurt because they just gave away too much of themselves and were rejected. They are addicted to love, craving it wanting it and settling for anyone who would spout the words. They are love junkies, settling for a shallow substitution. Love is not parasitic it is symbiotic. The bible says this about love:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

We all fight and argue. Some of us fighting to keep our place in the relationships we are in, but in the end you have to realize why you are fighting and what is worth fighting for. If you are fighting for you and your right to be loved, perhaps the person you are fighting for isn't worth it. Don't take a bullet for someone who is going to be the one taking the gun for you. So take what Corinthians says and apply it to yourself first before you can share that with someone else.