Thursday, 18 December 2014

I'm single not desperate




Please allow me to clear up some common misconceptions for you. I know I'm a walking stereotype, short hair, tattoo's, pin strips and tank tops, but this doesn't make me any less of a girl. Nor does it make me want to be a “man”. I have this inborn respect thing going on. Oh sure, I can be rude and crass and joke all I want, but when it gets to the heart of the matter, I'm extraordinarily respectful. I'm also extremely shy. I don't hit on women. It's actually kinda funny to see me in “action”, or rather inaction. I can't tell you how many times friends have come up to me and said, “you know she was hitting on you right?” The answer to that is always NO. No I didn't. I'm kinda brain dead when it comes to dating. But that being said, I kinda happy being brain dead, if I'd have to go to the alternative that is. Here is my example. On my birthday I went out to a bar and was outside talking to an aussie girl I had met through a friend. Yes this woman was very attractive, but I was more interested in the stories about how everything in her country was a brush with death. A rather drunk very tall fellow came up to me outside and put his arm around me. After gritting my teeth and holding down my instinct to put his unwanted arm elsewhere I used my powers of conversation. We were chatting away and he says to me, you have a very pretty girlfriend. (Yeah the closet isn't really an option for me.) I informed him that she was not my girlfriend and that she was straight. His response was, “I bet you could change her mind!” I told him that I had no intention of changing her orientation and pulled out a rather crass joke that I save for special occasions like this. Here is the deal people. I don't want to convert you. I don't want your wives or girlfriends. If you think I do, and you are at risk of loosing her, you have bigger issues. Please don't mistake my politeness and respect for making a pass at you. Some of us can be “lady like” without being effeminate. It also happens at the gay bars too. I get the evil eye from other “butchy” type ladies thinking that I'm out cruising her date. Seriously, thank you for the uber butch complement, but I'm really no threat. I have no intention on taking your girlfriend, and again if you think I am going to steal her away from you, you might want to consider uping your game and treating her right, or dumping her if she's a cheater. Either way, I pass. As for me dating, I've been single now the better part of two years. I am not going to settle for someone who doesn't treat me with respect. I'm single, not desperate. I'm not willing to just throw anyone in as a partner. I don't need anyone to complete me. I'm happy with me. If I meet someone and we mesh that would be great, if not I'm actually okay with that as well.

2 comments:

  1. People (typically straight women) always seem to confuse my genuine interest as flirting. I find it hard to stop myself from being genuinely interested in people though, so I tend to give a disclosure whenever I'm meeting new people. So I hear ya friend.

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