Being a Parent means putting your child first!

Being a Parent means putting your child first!

Sorry I missed yesterday blogging. I started on a number of topics, but none of them felt right. I am also battling a pretty nasty cold right now. Which is somewhat ironic considering I spent the day a couple of days ago on two separate occasions making soup for friends that had the flu! (I am awesome because I make soup for sick friends).

I was away the prior week end at a Karate tournament and my daughter loved staying at the hotel. When friends of mine offered to rent a hotel for the the night and have my daughter and myself come along I jumped at the chance. I am hoping I am better so I can enjoy my time to the fullest, but regardless if I am sick or not I am going. It's not just because I promised my daughter, but because the worst thing in the world is to see disappointment on your child's face. I mean it cuts like a knife, and I don't want to be the cause of it.

So often I see people who are parents who don't put their child first. I see people use their children as a weapon against the other parent which is completely despicable. My long term partner and I broke up over a year ago. She does not have any legal right to access to my child, but that is irrelevant. My daughter has a bond with her and it is my responsibility to uphold that bond no matter what my personal feelings for my ex I have. My feelings are not important, it is my daughter who comes first. When I gave birth to her I made a solemn promise to her to love her and protect her, to take her feelings into account before mine, and to foster growth and individuality in her. Her individual feelings are more important than mine. Unfortunately, her Father puts her at risk and I am not able to do the same in that situation, which is completely his loss. She is an awesome child and i would do anything for her.

People need to remember that when you have a child they never asked to be brought into the world, it is your responsibility to put them first regardless of the cost to you. Today I am awesome because I'm a good mom!